Relationship Status - Week 1 Recap

Tonight we started our Relationship Status series.

Here's a brief recap (note: if you want to see the video, come early next week.  We also are doing a 4 week Family Feud Gender Challenge)

Bottom Line: We decide who to date and who not to date.

When we choose the wrong people it causes a lot of frustration, chaos, anxiety, and anger.

You have to evaluate who would be good for you so you don't find someone who takes you away from who God made you to be.

2 Passages that give a glimpse of what we should start looking for….

1 Samuel 16:7

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

God selects people based on the heart – refers to moral, spiritual life, emotions, will, reason.

Choosing a King is important and God shows us how to choose, just like we need to in dating.

2 Corinthians 6:14 
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

To be yoked means literally stuck together like oxen plowing a field.  Don't get pulled in the wrong direction!  Christians should not date non-Christians - there is too much emotional and spiritual distraction and compromise that can occur. (We discussed this in detail, but would take up far too much space here.  Talk to Phil if you are having trouble on this point).

The application is in the form of a question: "If Christ is the most important thing in your life, why be involved with someone who has no regard for the very thing that is so important to you?"

If you can't share your love and commitment to Christ with this person, which is at the deepest part of you, then what do you really have to share?

CHALLENGE: Make a list of UNCOMPROMISABLES - things that the person you date must have no matter what. No excuses.  These will help you when emotions get the best of you.
Examples: Strong faith, commitment to serve others, generosity, integrity, passion, drive to succeed, encourager, emotional stability,  etc.

Compromisables are the little things that are less important such as hobbies, quirks, sports, etc.

Your uncompromisables list will help you know what you are really looking for and save time and heartache!  For tips, see Phil.